With the end of the year closing in fast and daylight dwindling going into the winter months, Travis and I have embarked on a very exciting and time-consuming adventure. Stated in previous posts about moving, home renovations and what not – I’ve noticed a bit of a common factor in all of them – high levels of stress.
I’ve talked about myself a lot – dealing with anxiety has caused a lot of stress on myself, but what I haven’t really talked about is what it is doing for Travis. My partner in crime, best friend, and the love of my life – what he has been dealing with and how I’m working to help him through this hectic period in our life.We all get stressed out, but what do we do when our partners are stressing? How can we help? Click To Tweet
Travis is a private person – he doesn’t like stressing me out with things that he worries about. (I don’t blame him for that mostly because of my anxiety has been high as of late so his stress will compound onto my stress.)
So that being said – it’s a rarity that Travis will express his own stress. Usually, he will just go into his nothing box and forget about it for a bit. I’ve linked a brilliant man who talks about the differences between men and women’s brains and it’s both highly informative as well as hilarious.
But, lately, it’s been getting harder and harder for him to forget about it. Everything is compiling together and for the most part, he has been taking it on full. (For my part I’ve been neglecting this because he hasn’t asked for help and I haven’t offered.)When your partner is stressed, sometimes offering to share will help them. Click To Tweet
One night Travis came home dealing with his own panic attack. Which, he doesn’t get very often. I think he’s had a total of 5 tops in his lifetime. So for him, it’s a big deal having an attack. He gets home and he’s feeling overwhelmed by everything that has to get done. Not only does he have to worry about the home renovations, but everything for the cars to be prepared for winter, ordering parts for the Volt, as well as finding out information about a new heater and AC unit.
To be honest, that’s a lot of work… let alone having one person taking care of it. So I did the best that I could do to calm him down from this panic attack. I suggested that we split the workload in two and we both get all thing items done.
For me, I knew right away what I can do to help – and what I can continue to do to help out so he doesn’t feel as overwhelmed as he has been. We both needed to have that conversation to be on the same page and that’s okay.
What to do when your spouse is stressed out
- Communication is key – talking it out sometimes will help out immensely.
- Listening – also an important rule of them. They might just want to vent and not find a solution (at this point).
- Comfort food – Beer and cheese sticks are always a winner if Trav is stressed. Sometimes it’s hungry related.
- Work together – You’re in a union so working as one is also a big relief when your partner is needing support.
- Massages – The simple act of loving them is helpful and touch is comforting.
- Ask – if you don’t know what to do – just ask what you can do to help.
What other ways can you help out your partner when they are stressing out?